Mlada mama otvoreno objasnila zašto želi imati aferu i žene se slažu s njom
MLADA mama otkrila je zašto želi imati aferu, a njezina objava s bloga Mom on the Run, koju je objavila i na Instagramu, postala je pravi hit na društvenim mrežama jer su se brojne žene prepoznale u njoj - no ne zbog razloga koji bi vam prvo pao na pamet.
"Želim imati tajne razgovore tijekom dana. Želim napisati više od 'šećer, kava, mlijeko i hranu za psa'. Želim napisati: 'Ne mogu prestati razmišljati o tebi' ili 'ne mogu dočekati da te dotaknem.'"
"Želim se osjećati poželjnom. Želim primati poruke zbog kojih ću se crvenjeti i osjećati slabo. Želim čuti da sam lijepa. Da izgledam seksi u tim hlačama. Da sam toliko poželjna da je slab na mene."
I want to have an affair. I want to have secret conversations during the day. I want to write more than “sugar, coffee, milk and dog food”. I want to write, “I can’t stop thinking about you” or “I can’t wait to touch you” I want to feel desired. I want to receive text messages that will make me blush and feel weak. I want to be told I’m beautiful. That I look sexy in those pants. That I’m so wanted I make him weak. I don’t want to feel like someone’s mother, like I’m arguing over socks on the table, or who gets more sleep. Like i’m scolding someone to do things a correct way. I don’t want to say or hear “I’m too tired tonight” of every day of every week. I want the fireworks and the passion. I want to feel like I’m not invisible. Like I’m more than a roommate to someone. That when I’m seen, I’m not seen through. Like I’m not a copilot but a passenger in the mile high club. I think about it every day. I want to have an affair, but it’s not what you think. I want to have an affair with my husband. I want him to hear it when I say it and that I mean it. Because we need it. Because three kids later and it’s exhausting, and our relationship hasn’t just been put on the back burner, it’s forgotten. We are too exhausted to love each other. I don’t need it to feel like a new relationship, because what we have is so much deeper... I don’t need just lust, because we have love. But I want that connection again and I want that spark. I want to have an affair with the man I married, because I love him, because every day I wake up he is still the first person I think of. I don’t want that every time I bring it up that it’s time to fight. I want him to know it’s not his fault, or mine.. it’s just time... and I don’t want to wait until it gets away to have us back.
"Ne želim se osjećati kao nečija majka koja se svađa oko čarapa na stolu ili o tome tko više spava. Kao da nekoga 'tjeram' da stvari radi na pravilan način. Ne želim reći ili čuti 'preumoran sam danas' svaki dan ili svaki tjedan."
"Želim vatromet i strast."
"Želim osjećati kao da nisam nevidljiva. Kao da sam više od cimerice nekome."
"Želim imati aferu, ali nije ono što mislite"
"Želim imati aferu sa svojim suprugom, želim da me čuje kad mu to kažem i da zna da to mislim. Jer trebamo to. Jer imamo troje djece i iscrpljujuće je, a naša veza nije samo zapostavljena, već gotovo zaboravljena".
"Preiscrpljeni smo za voljeti jedno drugo. Ne trebam osjećaj nove veze, jer ono što mi imamo toliko je dublje... ne trebam samo požudu, jer mi imamo ljubav."
"No želim tu povezanost ponovo i želim tu iskru. Želim imati aferu s muškarcem za kojeg sam se udala jer ga volim, zato što svaki dan kad se probudim - on je prva osoba o kojoj razmišljam."
"Ne želim da se svaki put kad to spomenem posvađamo. Želim da zna da nije njegova krivnja ili moja... to je samo vrijeme... i ne želim čekati da prođe kako bismo ponovo imali to."
Inače, Lauru i na Instagramu prati gotovo 15 tisuća ljudi, a njezine iskrene objave dobivaju veliku pažnju. Jučer je tako pokazala razliku između svog tijela prije i poslije tri bebe.
I want to show you how much children change your body. I remember this guy said to me I had a “tight rig”...I never ate much, i glorified my thinness...I felt like a valued person. I was thin. In my mind, i was valued. I was funny, I felt pretty. I fit into whatever I wanted. I met a guy, we fell in love and we wanted babies. Three kids, 2 vaginals, 1 caesarean, muscle separation, postpartum depression, antidepressant weight gain, and life later, this is my rig. I hated it. I would say it was broken. The stretch marks, the scarring, the weight gain, it’s not the person I valued anymore. Other people noticed it too... “wow remember your body before kids?” “Oh hun, can I tell you about this weight loss supplement that I’ve been taking, I can send you a sample now that you’re done having kids” (3 days after I gave birth to my now 5 month old) I was no longer valued. In my mind. I was no longer valued. Then someone asked me, what would I say to my daughter about body issues... and I said that she should never base her worth on her body. That she should always value herself no matter what the scales or her body looked like. I said that. But I didn’t believe it. I felt like, I’m the same girl on the inside if not way more so why did I stop feeling valued? Why did this “new rig” that has been through SO much, stop deserving love? Why was it this new body would recoil at my lovers touch or cover up and hide in intimacy? Why is there so much fucking talk about going back to what you were before kids? Or only being valued when your body is unmarked with the sketch of a child. What would I say to my daughter? That she is only as good as the number on the scales? I want to show you how much children change your body, but I also want you to know that they changed everything for me. They gave me the balls to fight through my depression They made me want to finish my degree and study a masters They taught me empathy and kindness and how wonderful life is helping others. They made my life worth fighting for And they made me realise that my body is important, even now, because it made the three most beautiful things that could have ever happened to this rig of mine.